How the The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson is Life Changing

Living in a world that pictures perfectionism and living your best life can be tough. Especially when that is not real life. Mark Manson’s The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck offers a much needed reality check. It’s not your typical self-help book. It challenges you on your approach life, teaching you to let go of what doesn’t matter and focusing on what truly does.

Manson’s exact words read, "We all have a limited number of “f*cks” to give, so we need to be selective about where we invest our energy." It’s easy to get caught up in pleasing others or chasing superficial goals, but real growth happens when we focus on what aligns with our core values. This isn’t about being perfect, it’s about being real. Manson urges you to let go of perfectionism and embrace reality. Its exhausting trying to achieve a life based off an social media profile because they are mere glimpses of what reality really contains. Manson encourages you to embrace the journey, the challenges and our flaws as it eventuates into self love and appreciation and that is true happiness. 

He explains that chasing endless goals or external validation are pointless and never fill that void inside of you. It will perhaps temporarily but after the highs, reality sets in. So instead, he asks us to focus on what we’re willing to struggle for. Real fulfilment comes from finding meaning in our struggles, not avoiding them. Success, in Manson’s view, is about aligning our actions with what we genuinely care about, not about having it all.

Embracing discomfort and leaning into your setbacks and failures is where the magic happens. Where true growth comes from. Setting boundaries and finally saying "NO" to what doesn't serve you or what drains your energy, instead of pleasing others is life changing. 

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is more than just a guide to personal growth, it’s a call to live authentically, embrace life’s messiness, and choose what really deserves your attention. It helps you redefine what success and happiness really mean and teaches you that the real magic resides in the struggles, the failures, the flaws, that is where the real growth happens. If you're ready for a perspective shift that could change your life, this book is a must-read.